Pray for Her
Sometimes the most meaningful thing you can do is simply pray.
Throughout my breast cancer journey, people prayed for me in ways I knew about and probably in many ways I never did. Friends prayed with me, people sent prayers and Scripture, and I was given reminders that I was being covered in prayer even when I couldn't see it.
There were so many things the people who loved me couldn't fix or change. But they could pray.
And knowing they were bringing me before God reminded me that I wasn't carrying any of it alone.
Sometimes giving grace is simply saying, “I'm praying for you,” and then actually doing it.
Wrap her in prayer.
During treatment, I was given this handmade prayer shawl along with a beautiful prayer written especially for me. It was a physical reminder that someone had taken the time to pray for me and was continuing to hold me in prayer.
There were moments when I didn't have the words or the strength for much of anything. Having something I could wrap around myself was a comforting reminder that I was being prayed for even in those moments.
Sometimes giving grace is finding a tangible way to remind her that she is covered in prayer.
Share the words when she may not have them.
I had to leave home very early the morning of my mastectomy. Before I left, I found this waiting for me from my daughter Korynn. She had written me a letter and included Psalm 23:4–6.
On a morning filled with so much uncertainty, those words reminded me that I wasn't walking into surgery alone. I could carry her words with me, and even more importantly, the reminder that God was with me.
Sometimes giving grace is sharing Scripture that reminds her of God's presence when she needs it most.
Remind her that God is with her.
Throughout my treatment, my mom would text me Bible verses. Somehow, she always seemed to time them perfectly. So many times I would be sitting in a waiting room before an appointment, anxious about what I might hear or what came next, and a Scripture from her would appear on my phone.
She couldn't always be sitting beside me in that waiting room, but those messages reminded me that she was praying for me and, more importantly, that God was already there with me.
Sometimes giving grace is sharing God's Word at just the moment she may need to hear it.
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Not sure how to pray for her?
You don't need the perfect words. Just bring her before God.
Pray for what she's facing today. An appointment, a treatment, surgery, test results or simply the strength to get through a hard day.
Ask how you can pray. A simple “Is there anything specific I can pray for today?” lets her tell you what she needs most.
Share a Scripture. If a verse makes you think of her, send it. It may arrive at exactly the moment she needs it.
Pray with her. In person, over the phone or even in a text. Your prayer doesn't have to be long or eloquent to be meaningful.
And keep praying.
The road doesn't end after surgery, treatment or even the words “cancer free.” Continue to pray for her in the weeks, months and years that follow.
Sometimes giving grace is simply continuing to bring her before God.